Dating as a trans person feels impossible right now

I downloaded the apps, deleted them, downloaded again. Every match comes with the question of when to disclose, and every disclosure comes with the fear of violence or fetishization or polite ghosting. I'm lonely and I want connection, but dating feels like a minefield where I'm always managing other people's reactions to my existence. Straight friends don't get why it's so hard. I'm not asking for a how-to — I just need to know I'm not the only one who finds this exhausting. Anyone else?